December 23, 2009

They Don't Know Nothing About My Soul

I do not like social situations.  Some of my friends even call me a hermit.  Making small talk with others makes me extremely uncomfortable.  The one thing that I hated most while I was in college was hearing, "So, what's your major?"  Now, I'm asked the following:
     "What do you do?"
     "Are you married?"
     "Do you have children?"

Those are even worse.  It saddens me to think that's all anyone can come up with.  If you've ever asked any of these questions, did you feel that you walked away from the conversation learning something real about the person?  When I'm asked these sort of questions, I instantly want to be anywhere else.  The other person can't be interested in getting to know me.

So, I want to offer some new questions:

     "What are you passionate about?"
     "What's your fondest memory?"
     "Do you collect anything?"
     "If you had the opportunity to go anywhere in the world, where would you go?"
     "What inspires you?"
     "Do you have a favorite song?"
     "Who / What has been the biggest influence in your life?"

I think any of the above would grab my attention.  Even a joke or a story would be a good idea.  College majors, jobs, and marital status are not things that define a person.

Let's get to know each other for real.